My oldest daughter, Ashlin, recently reminded me of her engagement to her husband, Skylar. They will be celebrating the first year of their marriage at the end of the year. It is refreshing to watch them because there are some lessons which we all need to be reminded of personally as well as professionally.
When engaged to be married a person is:
- Totally focused on the opportunity at hand, and
- Not entertaining other offers!
Contrast those characteristics to a professional I met recently who said, “If I could find something else that paid as much as what I am doing now, I would quit what I am doing now. In fact, I am looking.”
This professional could have used some reminder lessons in “engagement.” Just look around the next time you go out to eat. There will usually be a couple sitting all by themselves, looking longingly into each other’s eyes, with no clue or awareness that there is anyone else in the room. They are either dating or engaged!
Look around a little more and you’ll see a guy who is totally into his iPhone while his date’s eyes wander to find the man…she WISHED she had married!
When engaged to be married or engaged in work, the characteristics are the same. You…
- Dream of how wonderful things are going to be,
- Plan to make amazing things happen,
- Dedicate your time and your energy to making it all work.
Failure to accomplish the end objective has more to do with engagement than perhaps any other characteristic. When you are engaged, your time, attention, thoughts, dreams, aspirations, plans, and nearly every waking moment is focused on making IT work. Whatever IT is.
So, get engaged! Recommit to your work with the same passion that my friend has for his upcoming marriage. With that level of commitment, everyone else will get out of your way so you can get to the alter. The alter of your accomplishment!